Sunday, February 21, 2021

Zachary Turns Teen

Zachary has been on Winter Break for every birthday he can remember and disappointed that he'd be doing work on his big day.  I decorated the house, bought his Spanish Class cupcakes and a few special surprises for the day, and when he got home, he exclaimed it was his favorite birthday he can remember.  His new friends at school celebrated him, they played basketball during Spanish and he ate 11 mini cupcakes contributed by other members of the class, too.  

Roxy had her haircut that morning, and came home looking less than the adorable dog we knew.  Everyone needs a good haircut.  Poor girl had us moping about, lamenting her previous cuteness.


 Zachary was so lucky to get time with Caleb on a school night--the stars aligned with soccer and both boys' schedules.  They surfed, did tricks, dug holes, and skateboarded the night away.




We came home and made waffles--Zachary's birthday request.  Caleb, Sam, and Jakey joined us and the kids were all animated and excited to introduce the boys to orange syrup.

13 was a turning point for Zachary: first time EVER he was excited about clothes in wrapping paper.  He loved Kate's present--Billabong slippers, and his new joggers.

My mom has started making homemade cards for birthdays.  The picture he is holding up is when Zachary is a baby in my arms.
Chocolate birthday cake with chocolate icing and red sprinkles, of course his favorite.  If we are keeping track, that is 11 mini cupcakes, waffles and orange syrup, and chocolate cake and icing for the day's win.

Brady and Zachary played intense rounds of Skull King, a game I haven't beaten Zachary in since the first week received it.

Friday, I picked up a bunch of his friends from school and homes and we had lunch at Bubba's Burger followed by football on the beach, skim boarding, and boogie boarding.  I love this crew of boys and I wish I saw more of them.  I don't get to see Jojo, Mana, and David nearly as much now that they don't go to school together.
Kate had no problem being the solo female and joined in the tackles.  The other boys were gentle with her while Zachary took her down in typical sibling fashion.  I am not okay with tackle football and watched every play with my breath held.  It is impossible to play touch football with Jojo and Mana and it quickly morphs into tackle.  

Some day, Zachary will stop covering himself from head to toe with sand and I will be sad and remember fondly scratching his hair and having sand fall out in handfuls.  No sarcasm intended--I love his comfort with the sand and his lack of inhibition when he plays in it.
David came straight from the optometrists with dilated eyes to a party at the beach in the bright sunlight.  That is friendship.



A football dive and a water flip: 


Paige showed up and was so sweet with our (ugly) dog.









Kate went out surfing alone when she was tired of skim boarding and I loved watching her carry the board back in the sunset.
Jojo asked me to let him smash a cupcake in Zachary's face.  We were outside and I somehow forgot about last year when he was a little overly emphatic, so I gave the ok.  He basically punched Zac in the face with chocolate.  Zachary was tough and handled it just fine and with laughs though he told me that night, "It hurt like crazy."



Zachary is energy and passion.  When he plays soccer or surfs, skimboards or plays the piano, he is intense and focused.  He does not always love to practice the piano, but he is always responsible and gets it done.  He does not always want to go to to soccer, but once he gets back in the car, it's with a bright, pink face full of energy.  When he reads, he is lost for hours.  

He is showing more and more consideration for others.  Today, I was cleaning the benches at church alone.  He joined me without being asked. Yesterday, he spent his own money on a drink for himself and Caleb at the store on the way to the beach.  Otis was there, too, and he gave up his drink without thinking for a second about keeping it.  He made the best peanut butter chocolate chip cookie of my life this week.  Last night before he went to bed, he offered to get up and help make our Sunday breakfast with me.  He takes Roxy potty every morning.  He irons his clothes before church and helps Owen get dressed.  He loads the car when we surf.  

Zachary asks thoughtful questions and seems okay with nuances.  This is progression for him as most of the world was black and white prior to the last few years.  His teachers like him and he seems to make friends at school without trouble.  He is not ultra-extravert but seems comfortable in most environments.  His 7th grade experience has been filled with a lot more confidence than mine, and I'm so relieved.

Zac and I bond over card games.  He is talking to me more and more and I hope that continues.  We discuss surfing, funny moments at school, and awkward moments.  We battle over hygiene, technical music, and showing work in math.  Brady and I watch fantasy movies with him simply for the experience of sitting by him and enjoying something he loves.  Super heros are maybe my least favorite movie genre right after horror, but I will watch anything with Zachary.

Happy, happy birthday to Zachary!  He is so fun to celebrate.

Wednesday, February 17, 2021

Kauai Fall in January

 I love January.  I used to get the major blues: it was the end of holidays and gatherings and parties and often meant that I was doing some sort of physical or dietary challenge that meant less fun for my taste buds.  I've rid myself of associating January with resolutions and instead make modest goals meant to elevate my daily life and satisfaction rather than make it feel like extra or prohibitive work.  Also, the sun is still shining in Kauai despite the crisp temperatures, giving a break from heat but not the gorgeous sky and water.

Playdate with huge bubbles:


Brady on the left:

January also means piano recital, which the kids haven't had since last January.  They were both very anxious getting up on stage.  Zachary zoomed through his songs but survived without errors and Kate led the way as she does every recital, going first and playing a duet with me.  

The kids ate Panda Express afterwards to celebrate.  A local lady, after eating her meal about 10 feet away and then throwing away all her food without a mask on, came and chastised our family for not having masks on.  "It is the law here.  You need to respect the law."  We were pretty surprised, realizing she expected we were tourists.  Brady was a little feisty with her, letting her know that we were eating just like her in the designated, legal eating area, far away from others, and we did in fact live here.  It should not matter that we live here.  There is still a lot of anger at tourists right now, and it is a hostile environment.


Wakeboarding:


On Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, Brady had time off but the kids still had piano.  We surfed, then dropped them off at lessons and did a short, muddy hike.


Muddy, sleepy pup!
Double rainbow!
I mentioned to Brady that I wanted to make a planter bed, and "I would make all of it if you will just pick up the materials at Home Depot."  Translation: "Can you please make the planter bed on Saturday?"
He even painted it to match our house.
Hot tubbing:
Another day, another hike with Owen. We could not convince the others to join us.
"Look!  I caught a (dead) fish!"


Roxy's favorite position at night: she barks until we let her up on our bed.
Waiting out soccer practice.  Sadly, the kids' practices do not line up so I'm at soccer fields Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday.  On Wednesday, I'm at ballet.  So, we probably should have lived in Kalaheo since we live there every afternoon...

Another gold star!  Pee monitor is working!
Owen finding friends to run around with while Kate is at practice:
Zachary always makes his bed:
Idiot moment when I thought I had my board strapped on tight, but it flipped over and snapped.  Lucky it was a $100 board and not my nice one.
Kate and Shay:

Kate made a goal to cook dinner once a month.  She made a creamy chicken pasta and key lime pie.






Walking through Kukuiolono Park while Kate dances:
Mom and Kate date after I dropped off kids at preschool.  We went to Kalaheo Cafe and finished off with a surf.

Kate and her friend Milly, who will only be here for a few months:

We've been to Hanalei the last three weekends.  Kate and Milly surf tandem after hours surfing solo.  The weather has been perfect and the waves messy but fun. Owen even surfed one day!


Love this fall:


Brady:


The day Zachary decided he was too old for lego displays and generously put them all on Owen's floor and dresser.
I spy a gold star: nine nights in a row!
Kate is so patient and friendly, playing with Owen many days a week.

Just when I think it is safe to chuck the play dough, the kids play with it for hours.



COVID mer-people:
Exploring during dance:


Making kumquat jam at Carol's house!  It took over 4 hours to pick the fruit, dissect the seeds, and make the jam, but we were with people we loved so it flew by.





Finally ordered from a Mexican food truck that has been in Koloa for years and had the best fish tacos OF MY LIFE.

Three surfer girls, living their best life at Hanalei:
Super Bowl Sunday at Heidi's.  I've never cared about professional sports, but I care even less than before.  Did the Chiefs play?  Where are the Chiefs even from?  I also don't care about commercials.  I am really happy to support my husband and son who do love NFL football and bond over it most weekends.  I also love food and we had some great pupus, I walked the dog and listened to a book, and the kids played.  We finished off the afternoon walking it all off at the park, feeding chickens, blowing bubbles and catching a sunset.

We found someone's abandoned pet chicken:















The next day, Kate cashed in her free coupon for hair with Heidi, getting semi-permanent pink.  She is begging for permanent, and we are on the hunt for the best product.


Heidi graciously dyed Owen's hair, too.
Mondays are for piano lessons and the dog park:


Hands down my favorite moment of the month: coming downstairs after a workout to see Owen and Kate singing their hearts out together.
Ballet/petting zoo at Hilary's: